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My mom died. I need a sedative.
I’m so stressed out. I need a drink.
I finally graduated. I deserve to celebrate and get high.
Some experts say that behind all self-sabotage efforts is a sense of entitlement, the “I deserve this” concept that indicates that people feel they are working too hard in recovery with no perceived reward.
Others say that self-sabotage comes from a fear of success. Though they genuinely want to stay sober in theory, they fear what that looks like in practice and make choices that, on some level, they know will put them in the position to relapse.
Still others say that the true driving force behind self-sabotage in recovery comes from a lack of internalizing new coping mechanisms as a truly viable option. That is, though you may have gone to rehab and learned about what you have to do in every part of your life to stay healthy and make healthier choices, you may not have ever been able to clearly visualize yourself using those tools successfully, and the idea that use of drugs and alcohol is some kind of a reward or a relief, rather than the destructive and deadly habit it is, may linger.
Signs of Sabotage
Sobriety Is an Achievable Goal
The good news is that no matter what the reason for your self-sabotage is, and no matter how complicated the psychology is behind the choices you make in recovery regarding moving closer to or further away from relapse, sobriety is a goal you can turn into a reality.
You can start by doing a little prep work so you and your therapist can dig down into what is going on with you and where your focus needs to be as you work through these issues. For example, you can do the following:
When you are able to forgive yourself for the past, focus on feeling solid in the present, and start to construct a path forward to a life that is far more exciting, rewarding, and peaceful than a life defined by active substance abuse, you will find that the self-sabotaging choices will be fewer and farther between, giving you the opportunity to grow strong enough in recovery to overcome them without relapse.
How will you help yourself to stop self-sabotaging behaviors in recovery?