Call us today
Taking part in one or more of the many 12-Step meetings that are available across the country is a great way to connect with people in your community who know where you are coming from in terms of addiction and sobriety and similarly working to stay sober as well.
It has proven to be such an effective tool for helping people to remain sober for the long-term that many drug rehab programs incorporate 12-Step meetings into their treatment structure. This not only helps people to benefit from the group’s support but also to get people started on the 12-Step program so when they transition into independent living, these meetings will feel familiar and supportive.
One part of the program that has proven to be effective for attendees is taking part in the sponsor-sponsee relationship. Having a sponsor, especially early on in your 12-Step participation, can provide you with a number of benefits, but these relationships are not necessarily for everyone nor are they necessary to get everything you need out of the 12-Step program.
Would you benefit from having a 12-Step sponsor?
What exactly a sponsor will do for you and with you will vary depending upon the individual. In many cases, however, a sponsor should:
Some sponsors will meet with you more frequently or personally come to meet you if you are concerned you will relapse, no matter what time of day or night. None of these things are required, however, and it is up to you and your sponsor to determine what works best for you.
In addition to all that a sponsor can do for you, it is important to note all the things that a sponsor is not as well. For example, your sponsor is not:
It is a good idea to start fresh with someone you don’t know but someone you respect who has a lot of “clean time” in recovery.
Many find a great deal of personalized support and encouragement when they meet regularly with a 12-Step sponsor. Depending on the individual and the situation, possible benefits of this setup can include:
When you attend some meetings, at a certain point, the speaker may ask that any in attendance who are interested in taking on sponsees raise their hands. If you see someone you would like to work with raise their hand at this time, you can approach them on a break or after a meeting and ask them if they would be interested in working with you or, if not, then if they know of someone who would.
If you attend meetings where this offer is not made, you can raise your hand and share with the group that you are looking for a sponsor. Though no one will respond to you at this time, someone may come up to you at the break and let you know they can help you if you are interested or give the number of someone who can.
You cannot know for sure whether or not you will benefit from having a sponsor until you try. And remember that they are all called “temporary” sponsors because neither of you is obligated to take part in the relationship for any length of time. You could have someone as your sponsor for 10 minutes or 10 years – they will all still be called “temporary” sponsors.
Are you interested in working with someone as you go through the steps? Do you have questions that you would like definitive answers to? Are you willing to test someone out and see if it works before making a commitment? Do you feel like you can walk away if things don’t seem to be a good fit? Maybe a 12-Step sponsor is a good choice for you.